Ok, do you guys have problems with "competitive moms?" My brother-in-laws wife is crazy, she is making me crazy. Really. We have never gotten along really well but now it's spreading to our kids and it makes me sad.
Every time Caeden and I go to the Dr. she want's to know percentiles, milestones, events - EVERYTHING! However she doesn't ask me, she works with two of my close friends so she is contantly pumping them for information.
My boy is really long and average for his weight. So, he is in 2 different percentiles. WHO FRICKIN' CARES, right? Well her boy who is 8 months older is in the same 2 percentiles - so her boy is perfect and mine isn't. WHAT!? She say's other things in their lunch time too. Like, Caeden will NEVER be attached to his mom's apron strings. What does that mean? My boy is independent, yes - but who cares? Every time I am around her she is like, well someday Caeden will do [blank], whatever her boy is doing. She isn't saying it nicely, but like - what is wrong w/ your kid?
It's getting to the point where I feel like EXPLODING! And telling her that her baby is far from perfect when at 20 months he is still eating stage 2 baby food and can't go anywhere "because it will be hard" on him. Not to mention he didn't walk for a long time, even her pediatrician started to worry.
However, none of that is fair to her boy and it makes ME feel like a terrible person for even thinking those things. He is just a baby w/ a crazy mom that makes me sad.
you know, i think this is very similar to one-upper friends in general. (although it's unfortunate this is family, and not just a friend you can avoid!)
i have a friend who is like this, with a baby two months younger than lilah. when i first started breastfeeding, i had a LOT of troubles, and had to see a lactation consultant/etc and one day she randomly said "don't you just love breastfeeding?!" and i was just like "..." or she would talk about how she weighs less now than before she was pregnant (and offered some of her pre-preg pants because they are too loose for her -- we are the same size)
it's REALLY annoying, but i just ignore it and change the subject, or go the opposite direction, like if my friend would say "i can't believe your baby isn't doing this!" i would say "you are so right, my child is never going to walk or talk!"
(ps i agree who cares about milestones/weights/etc every child is different!)
erin wrote: i have a friend who is like this, with a baby two months younger than lilah. when i first started breastfeeding, i had a LOT of troubles, and had to see a lactation consultant/etc and one day she randomly said "don't you just love breastfeeding?!" and i was just like "..." or she would talk about how she weighs less now than before she was pregnant (and offered some of her pre-preg pants because they are too loose for her -- we are the same size)
oops. I sort of did this. I do love breastfeeding and although I had some issues with it each time, I still pushed through...and I hope I didn't brag about it, but I did tell everyone. AND not now, but after my first baby, I did lose more weight than I started with. I hope I didn't piss any of my friends off, I was more just talking about my issues rather than bragging.
My beef is with my MIL. She is constantly comparing my son to his cousin, who is a girl and is 6 months younger. Lately, it's all about the fact that she can say more words coherently than he can. And she keeps bringing it up, as if there is something I did wrong and that's why he hasn't progressed as far. Meanwhile, I have a best friend who is a speech pathologist and she says he is fine, but that apparently isn't good enough for Grandma.
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