mikababy wrote: How long after your first did you know that you wanted a second child?
Is anything wrong with me that I can imagine a second child at this point?
Well, I had another marriage and 4.5 years in between the first and second, so I guess that doesn't count.
But between my 2nd and 3rd, I knew immediatly after the 2nd was born that I wanted another one. And 3 months later, I was preggo. Yes, a 12 month old and a newborn. How crazy am I????
for me, as soon as i was recouped from having mercie and enjoying being a mommy, probably 3 weeks after she was born, once we got settled, i was ready to plan for a second. and we did. we had planned on getting pregnant when mercie was 1 1/2 but timing at that point wasn't great, so we pushed it to right before she turned 2 and have been trying ever since. until now anyway,
yeah, I wanted a second one just as soon as I laid eyes on my first one. every time I put away another set of clothes that he outgrew. what I didn't know was when. I was lazily thinking, oh 3 years would be ok....
and once I had barely begun to wean my son from breastfeeding, I was starting to feel baby fever around that time too. and boom, one period and I got pregnant before I had time to even consider possibly going on bc pills.
I love babies! I used to feel almost indifferent to them before I had one (now I wouldn't like that girl I was very much!).
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dreal, i was the same way about babies before i had one. i really didn't feel like i would care one way or the other if i ever had one or not. and when i was faced with the thought of maybe not being able to have any more kids after mercie, it really sadened and depressed me. i know as soon as i have this baby, i will be ready to plan for another one. especially if it will take as long to get pregnant as it did this time.
Hmm, maybe only 1 is in my destiny. DD is 2.5 and I have no desire to have another one...ever. Is that horrible? I love & nurture DD to death and enjoyed the 1st year soooo much that I wished they were infants for twice the amount of time. However, I dont know if I can go through the "Terrible 2s" stage again and I'm dreading the "Trying 3s stage". I've seen kids w/a really horrible temper tantrums and behavior issues and think "I guess I cant complain". But when she's the only kid around, DH and I just look at ea other w/blank faces and roll our eyes...cuz regarless of whether or not we give her what she wants at that moment...15 min later shes screaming about something else! It also breaks my heart to leave her 9hrs a day in daycare or at my moms house and I cant imagine leaving another baby there. If I could be a SAHM, I think I would consider having another one....ugh...but those Terrible 2s...will I get over it and forget? Just like I forgot how horrible I felt during pregnancy?
Hmm, maybe only 1 is in my destiny. DD is 2.5 and I have no desire to have another one...ever. Is that horrible? I love & nurture DD to death and enjoyed the 1st year soooo much that I wished they were infants for twice the amount of time. However, I dont know if I can go through the "Terrible 2s" stage again and I'm dreading the "Trying 3s stage". I've seen kids w/a really horrible temper tantrums and behavior issues and think "I guess I cant complain". But when she's the only kid around, DH and I just look at ea other w/blank faces and roll our eyes...cuz regarless of whether or not we give her what she wants at that moment...15 min later shes screaming about something else! It also breaks my heart to leave her 9hrs a day in daycare or at my moms house and I cant imagine leaving another baby there. If I could be a SAHM, I think I would consider having another one....ugh...but those Terrible 2s...will I get over it and forget? Just like I forgot how horrible I felt during pregnancy?
I feel the same way. One is enough for me, although I miss the age from 3-18 months. Chris was a good baby and I miss that time where I could hug and kiss and he would not care. He is almost 8 and kissing is gross these days I have to work and chris does see me that much and I dont want that for the 2nd child. I would love to be SAHM so I could be there when chris gets home from school and go to his after school activitys b/c he is growing up to fast.
dreal wrote:yeah, I wanted a second one just as soon as I laid eyes on my first one. every time I put away another set of clothes that he outgrew. what I didn't know was when.
Same here....DH wanted another one before our son was actually born. Now with all this baby blues crap I hope I haven't scared him out of it.
I have to work and chris does see me that much and I dont want that for the 2nd child. I would love to be SAHM so I could be there when chris gets home from school and go to his after school activitys b/c he is growing up to fast.
